One of the most important skills you can learn is to “recognize pressure.” By that I mean developing the ability to sense where others maybe trying to move you. Not in a good direction. Towards something that can only lead to disappointment, adversity and regret.
Learning to recognize when someone is trying to move you in the wrong direction in your personal life will help you to read what is really going on – and guide you to make better decisions.
Peer pressure is nothing more than a person or a group trying to move you in a direction that they want you to go. They are attempting to exert pressure on you so that you will behave in a manner that will ultimately help them to achieve their goals.
You may face double or even triple teams within your social
circles at school, parties and other gatherings. The challenge they lay on you might be to do something that they do not have the courage or conviction to do on their own.
Finding a few “willing” accomplices always seems to grease the skids in this regard.
While it has tremendous potential for creating some positive outcomes, the pressure in this type of group dynamic rarely has your best interests in mind. As more peers join the group, it seems that individual identity is surrendered to the whole – and along with it – independent thought.
Personal accountability becomes blurred as the mass and its momentum increases. The increasing volume of the group’s message – “everyone is doing it so it must be OK” – begins to drown out that little voice in your head that
says: “this is wrong.”
The pressure peers can exert will vary in form, intensity and frequency. It can become a battle, with your strength, commitment, and “will power” being challenged repeatedly.
However, with practice, you can learn to read the peer pressure plays, push back with equal might, hold your ground and turn it around into something positive.
More often than not, someone within that group will witness your defensive stand.
While they may not give you any high fives or fist bumps at the time, they will recognize the strength of your character. They know that what you did was right and respect your decision. They will know that they are not alone when they have to make the same choice.
Others will see their defensive stand as well and feel confident in their ability to push back.
As you know, momentum can shift on the basis of one key moment.
Standing your ground against peer pressure can be that defining moment.
Seeing you stand your ground against peer pressure will turn help others to stand their ground too.